Catch a glimpse of the unique intangible heritage of the Melaka Portuguese community – the arranged marriage proposal (video below).

Kristang marriages begin with the ceremony of asking for a hand in marriage.

The lady sponsor (kumadri) on the groom’s side visits the bride’s parents and asks in a circuitous way for the bride’s hand in marriage. For example, she may say: “I was walking by and saw a beautiful flower, so I came to pluck it.”

Traditionally, special cakes are served at this point. This custom dates back to a time when arranged marriages were the norm.

In this video, Martin Theseira and Jacinta Lazaroo speak in the local Portuguese creole language.

Research by Sabine Ferrao, with thanks to Margaret Sarkissian.

A community project in collaboration with Melaka Portuguese Eurasian Heritage Arts & Cultural Society. Supported by HSBC, filmed by UITM-CCA students.

Do visit the exhibition at Bendahari Lot 147 Jalan Bendahara from 10am-5pm Friday & Saturday until December 2024, and also stop by for selected meals with Donald and Lily at The Bendahari.